Doing Self Empathy

I think my problem with doing self empathy has to do with struggling with the words. I noticed in trying to find the perfect description was actually detracting from my ability to give myself empathy. You might be telling yourself that you have to do something right and that's why I interpret was really present at that moment too so we end up being present with something else which is a self-jappling about not getting it and not doing it right.