How Wasting Time Well Preserves Relationships

Have your remote teams been unknowingly breeding politics through silence and distance?

In episode 254 of At The Table, Pat and Cody explore how remote work can unintentionally foster politics and erode trust within teams. They unpack why virtual communication creates space for misunderstanding and suspicion—even among well-intentioned people. They also offer practical advice for building connections, restoring trust, and maintaining healthy team dynamics across distance.

Topics explored in this episode: 

(00:00) Understanding Virtual Politics

* How “virtual politics” can be thought of as the subtle mistrust that grows when people work apart.

(03:30) How Distance Fuels Assumptions

* How lack of information makes people fill in the gaps—often with negative assumptions.

(06:27) Building Proactive Trust

* How frequent, small check-ins can keep trust alive.

* Why men and women sometimes handle connection differently and how teams can structure regular contact.

(09:43) Efficiency vs. Relationship

* How Zoom culture prioritizes efficiency over connection. 

* Pat introduces the concept of “wasting time well” as essential for maintaining team health.

(11:52) The Ladder of Inference 

* Pat explains the “ladder of inference” and how remote work accelerates false assumptions.

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