The not now technique is a way of thinking about what might happen next. The wet-if kicks in big time when your daughter starts driving and there's an uncertain job location. "I really think these voices are coming from a place of protection," says one man who uses the technique.
We're often looking into the future... hunting for the "next big thing". That could be an exciting new job or a new relationship. We can get so fixated with these events and the happiness we hope they'll deliver, that we forget to look for joy right now.
Actor and author Tony Hale (Veep, The Mysterious Benedict Society, Arrested Development) was always chasing new accomplishments, until he realised he was missing the chance to be happy living in the moment. He used his experience to write one of Dr Laurie Santos's favourite children's books Archibald's Next Big Thing.
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