How Do We Regulate Our Emotions?

Our children push our buttons in a way nobody else could, because some those buttons were installed in childhood. So it brings up all of the unconscious stuff that we don't even know about. From when we were one and two and three and four and five. Because the brain doesn't store memories in a straightforward way. It's almost like t t s d. In this it works in the same way. And so young children have a way of pushing our buttons. We may not consciously have the to the memory, because they're not just filed in a straightforwarder way,. but the feelings will swamp us.