Subtle Ego: Performing Instead of Being

In this solo Q&A episode, I’m answering the questions so many of you have asked me over the past few days—about ego, identity, relationships, breakups, shadow work, discipline, grounding, and what the spiritual path actually looks like in real life.

I share honestly about the subtle ego patterns I still face, how I navigate heartbreak with grace, what it means to “perform” spirituality versus actually live it, and the practices that keep me connected when I fall off center. I also speak about dating, celibacy, intimacy, and how I think about love at this stage of my life.

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00:25 How do you feel about people using spirituality as an identity?

04:34 What is a subtle form of ego that you still catch yourself falling into?

06:22 Relationships ending

08:30 I would like to hear about your struggles

10:19 How do you stay & grow in a relationship when your partner doesn’t meet you in that growth?

13:50 What are your top spiritual books?

14:39 What’s the simplistic way you ground yourself when you feel an imbalance?

15:50 Who is André underneath all the labels?

17:35 Do you ever fall off your practices with meditation or music?

19:26 Are you single?

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23:47 What do you use to know yourself deeply?

25:27 What makes you most optimistic about the future of humanity?

27:38 Which meditations do you practice?

28:37 How did you believe so much in yourself to create something at this scale?

30:31 What’s your vision for KT for the coming year?

32:57 When did you start playing piano?

33:40 What practices keep spiritual insight grounded and accountable?

34:36 What illusion do you see most are still caught in without realizing it?

37:55 What was your earliest experience that awakened you to God within?

40:35 How do you know it’s your calling when it comes?

44:25 Do you think the more one knows themselves, the harder it is to fall in love?

48:03 Do you believe in free will?

51:26 How are you approaching dating and relationships?

52:54 What is the most overlooked doorway in consciousness?

53:54 What’s the deepest question you can ever imagine asking yourself?

55:21 What you feel is most important for calling in sacred union, your person?

57:06 What are some of the biggest patterns you’ve unraveled in yourself?

59:22 How were you raised spiritually/religiously?

1:00:55 What kind of diet do you follow & why?

1:02:04 What was the book that launched you into seeking?

1:03:20 What’s the deepest truth you’ve met this year?

1:03:58 Do you as André think that God is consciousness?

1:05:49 Do you still go through episodes of depression?

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