How to start building the 'walk away' muscle

Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships.

This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you. Sabrina explores how fear of abandonment, low self-worth, and childhood conditioning keep people stuck accepting breadcrumbs, avoiding conflict, and performing for love. If you’re struggling with anxious attachment, people-pleasing, situationships, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this conversation offers neuroscience-backed insight and practical tools to help you stop losing yourself and start building secure, authentic connection.

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Chapters

0:00 Why Being “Too Loving” Is Blocking Real Connection

2:10 People-Pleasing Isn’t Love, It’s a Trauma Response

5:10 Fawning, Anxious Attachment, and Self-Abandonment

8:20 Why the “Cool Girl / Easy Partner” Always Loses

11:30 Conflict Avoidance Is Quietly Killing Your Relationships

15:10 The Psychology of Power: Why Being Willing to Leave Matters

18:40 How Fear of Abandonment Keeps You Accepting Breadcrumbs

22:10 What Secure Relationships Actually Look Like (Repair Over Perfection)

26:00 How to Stop Self-Abandoning and Start Speaking Up

30:10 Tool of the Week: The Self-Abandonment Check-In

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