You may know Tom Ellis as the devilishly charming lead in Netflix’s Lucifer, or as the lovable Gary in the BBC sitcom Miranda. He's also made waves in the U.S., starring alongside Gina Rodriguez in Players, and appearing in Hulu’s Tell Me Lies, created by his wife, Meghan Oppenheimer.
In 2023, Tom and Meghan welcomed a daughter via surrogate, adding to his role as a proud dad of four. Now, his next big project is the star-studded film adaptation of Richard Osman’s bestselling novel The Thursday Murder Club, alongside Helen Mirren, Pierce Brosnan, and Richard E. Grant.
In this episode, Tom opens up about modern fatherhood, navigating surrogacy, his fear of needles and what it's really like working on a series about sexual toxicity - with his real-life partner at the helm.
✨ IN THIS EPISODE:
00:00 Intro
01:25 From Cardiff to Hollywood
02:11 The Spiritual Journey
04:17 The Thursday Murder Club Experience
06:37 Personal Life and Surrogacy
10:20 Failures and Lessons in Sports
20:09 Discovering Acting
23:50 Being Recognised on the Street
24:04 Medical Green Card Failure
26:35 Discovering Vasovagal Condition
27:45 Becoming a US Citizen
27:54 Political Climate in the US
31:15 Working with his Wife
37:09 Financial Struggles as a Student
43:43 Cats and Family Life
💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:
"I've had to face things that have been really uncomfortable. But I'm glad that I have done, because then I get back to a place of - this is where I should be. Acknowledging when I've been in the wrong place has been hard, but it's something that I've got better at"
On therapy: "I've learned that you're just basically asking someone to ask you the questions that you're scared to ask yourself, because you probably know the answers already"
🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:
Tom Ellis stars in The Thursday Murder Club, available to watch now on Netflix
Elizabeth’s upcoming one-off show at Cadogan Hall on 21 Sep for her new novel One of Us: https://www.fane.co.uk/elizabeth-day
Elizabeth’s Substack: https://theelizabethday.substack.com/
Join the How To Fail community: https://howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content
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Miranda Hart - https://link.chtbl.com/BoBbGenZ
Richard Osman - https://link.chtbl.com/oo_ct3h3
Tom Daley - https://link.chtbl.com/FGrAfe6J
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