A lot of times we merge so much with our thinking mind that we do think having an ego being defensive around wanting to be right does kind of signify or mean something about who we are. Our mental world is just a conditioned space that has been our neurons have been fired so frequently over time and our mind always seeks to make meaning. For some of us, we've repeated thoughts and mean thoughts can and might happen. And maybe some of us spend a lot of time with darker thoughts, but it doesn't necessarily mean that that is who we are - definitely not.