The Importance of Accepting Yourself

When your authentic experience arises the thought that you would express yourself with the degree triggers abandonment tear. You think if it's in a relationship context that you're preserving the relationship when in fact you're damaging the relationship because you're misrepresenting yourself. If you do push into the authentic expression and intensifies the abandonment tear so you have to be willing to ride out the abandonment tear. It's one of the reasons I like the Tanga's of Taparitsa which is that he sits there immobile through all of this experience that the abandonment anxiety comes and goes and he's still there. The terrible sadness of your own abandonment of yourself in the inauthentic experience sits through it and comes