Is Your Life Advice Fixing on What You Need?

All the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time is actually fixating on what you lack. Ironically, this fixation on the positive only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not. After all, no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is. A confident man doesn't feel a need to prove that he's confident. Either you are or you are not. If you're dreaming of something all the time, then you're reinforcing the same unconscious reality over and over that you are not that.