Have you ever noticed that the smarter you are, the more you question yourself and the more you struggle to make the original contributions you are uniquely qualified to make? Well, I certainly have and that lead me to connect with another coach who is just as obsessed with helping high achievers overcome their resistance and avoidance, Jane Elliot, PhD.
In this compelling conversation, Jane and I explore her framework for understanding and overcoming the four shades of avoidance - the spincyclers, overdeliverers, upper limiters, and white knucklers—unpacking how these behaviors manifest and impact driven women.
We shed light on why perfectionism isn't just a standalone issue but a symptom of deeper resistance, and how being identified as gifted can be a burden, leading to genuinely painful struggles to reach inner and outer expectations.
Jane and I share our insights on the spiritual aspects of using one's gifts in service to others, the identity struggles of highly intelligent individuals, and the importance of radical self-acceptance and continuous personal evolution.
We discuss her innovative framework, and her quiz, inviting you to determine which type of “self-eating brain” is holding you back. You'll hear the inspiring success story of Regina, a lawyer-turned-novelist, and how Jane's transformative coaching program unblocked her brilliance.
🎙️Mic Drop Moment:
“I've found that for some people, particularly people who've been the designated achiever in their family, there can be this point where the achievement looks like its gonna start to serve them, instead of the collective and that is a very frightening moment." Jane Elliot, PhD
Episode Highlights:
- Resistance styles are more than just labels—they are lenses through which we can better understand our behavior and thoughts.
- Perfectionism, often seen as a virtue, is redefined here as a mere symptom rather than an avoidance style.
- The emotional burden of being labeled as "gifted" and pressure to perpetually meet others' standards.
- Jane's "self-eating brain" framework offers a compelling look at how intelligent brains can become their own worst enemies
The Four Types of Self Eating Brains:
- Spin Cyclers
- White Knucklers
- Overdeliverers
- Upper Limiter
Which one are you? Take the Self-Eating Brain Quiz! https://www.janeelliottphd.com/thequiz
The next cohort of Jane’s group coaching program Blazing Talents starts in September, so here is the link to find out more
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