There's a certain amount of denial when we don't talk about the stuff that's going on and it teaches you to deny how you feel or what you think. So silent agreements create disordered emotional boundaries and miscommunication, right? We need to have a deeper self understanding if we want to change something. It can be very difficult, especially the things that are ingrained in us in childhood.
Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?
Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?
Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t?
Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?
Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements.
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