I Love You. I Don't Want to Go There.

"I better love myself, at least enough so that if someone I love starts coming down on me and calling me bad names or hurting me, I'm going to stop them because I love myself," she says. "It doesn't mean I'm some jerk with these huge boundary walls that nobody can ever get by." If it was honoring herself without love for them, it would be 'step back you jerk,' he writes. She advises people who have codependency in their lives to seek help from others rather than self-help books.