In Wade Mullins book, he describes this concept called a flexible script. When abusers get called out, what they do is basically say whatever they need to say to save the reputation and create the possibility that they'll still be able to fulfill that role. And so some of the things that I saw in my situation is that the abuser would respond very differently to different people, depending upon what he thought they wanted to hear. This can look like denials, it can look like excuses, it canLook like justification for his actions. It can include comparisons to others' worst actions. So all of that can happen when someone comes forward and says this wasn't right. The thing that's missing

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