Don't Approach It as a Negotiation

In the middle of a conversation, you can pause and ask questions to get at where the stops are right t what's happening? Why are we at loggerheads right now? Wel em, i have so many thoughts to that. We the first part of the work is understanding what's important to ourselves, whatdo we want? And really knowing that, and knowing, like you always talk about, what's your batnat what? What are you going to do?