The advice is really to give yourself some space to process this stuff. This was something i did personally, especially after the 20 20 students got back. I think one thing we forget is that grief takes a long time. But there can be these tiny spaces where we allow ourselves to process negative emotions. And it's worth recognizing and recognizing how much you're just socked in by all of our bad news. There's lots of evidence for what's called post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) Yet we've heard about this idea of dramatic growth from stressful situations. We know that trama's call us 'troubled', but are we willing to take on such an ordeal?