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How to Navigate Common Arguments

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

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Is My Goal to Be Righteous and Affronted and Wronged or to Solve This Problem?

It's very useful to appreciate that righteousness produces all kinds of rewards, including biochemicals in the brain. I have absolutely entered arguments where like my goal in that argument was to like be righteous and feel righteous. And even if I could add to perpetuate the conflict as a mode of attaching wild distancing. In addition to just the reward value ofrighteousness,. consider the ways in which people attach through bickering or attach to quarreling because it's a way of being in relationship while simultaneously Distancing from the other person.

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