parenting is extremely overwhelming. There's tremendous amount of guilt that goes into being a parent and you just can't be a perfect parent. And the striving to be a perfectparent is a problem. If you are trying so hard not to do those things, it will come out in snappiness or yelling at your kids when you don't want to yell at them. The child thinks something's wrong with mommy. It must be me. So they feel like that they have a safe space to then express how they feel.