Sally Kohn's new book is called How to Manage You and Your Business. In the appendix, she explains how to have a tough conversation with someone you're about to fire. She says it can be very difficult for people who don't know what to say or why they've been let down by their boss. But in order to get things done, there are some key steps that need to be taken before any firing happens.
Alisa Cohn: From Start-Up to Grown-Up
Alisa Cohn has been named the Top Startup Coach in the World by the Thinkers50 Marshall Goldsmith Global Coaches Awards and has been coaching startup founders to grow into world-class CEOs for nearly 20 years. She was named the number one “Global Guru” of startups in 2021, and has worked with startup companies such as Venmo, Etsy, DraftKings, The Wirecutter, Mack Weldon, and Tory Burch. She has also coached CEOs and C-Suite executives at enterprise clients such as Dell, Hitachi, Sony, IBM, Google, and many more.
Marshall Goldsmith selected Alisa as one of his Marshall Goldsmith 100 Coaches – a gathering of the top coaches in the world – and Inc. named Alisa one of the top 100 leadership speakers. Her articles have appeared in Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Inc. and she has been featured as an expert on Bloomberg TV, the BBC World News and in The New York Times. She is the author of From Start-Up to Grown-Up: Grow Your Leadership to Grow Your Business*.
In this conversation, Alisa and I discuss the difficult reality that most leaders need to face: saying goodbye to an employee. We detail the mindset you need in preparation for letting someone go. Alisa also helps us with specific language that will help you follow-though on a conversation and help everybody move on — and move forward.
Key Points
Our human tendency is often to side-step problems that we need to address.
By the time you take action to fire somebody, you are likely months late.
Just because someone was effective in the role previously (or in the last role) doesn’t mean their role is right for them today.
It’s helpful to be prescriptive in conversations leading up to firing on exactly your expectations — and the actions the other party has agreed to.
There’s no way to fire someone without it being awkward and painful. You’ll need to make peace with that before you take action.
Resources Mentioned
From Start-Up to Grown-Up: Grow Your Leadership to Grow Your Business* by Alisa Cohn
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