Attachment, and Cultivating Nonattachment

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

I'm Attached to You, Dad. We Have an Attachment.

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Buddha says we can be open to the fruits of wholesome desire, depending on our different circumstances. There's a place for healthy desire and then there's the problematic desire that gets us into trouble. The buddha turned away from the narrowly ascetic tradition of his time which was very life negadang. He talked about a middle way in which we can enjoy what there is to enjoy in life.

You might have heard the line “attachment is the root of suffering.” It comes from the Buddha, but you don’t have to be a Buddhist to recognize that becoming overly attached to a particular outcome, person, or view of yourself can lead to a lot of suffering. At the same time, there are clearly things that are sensible to be attached to – like our loved ones, a basic moral compass, and fundamentals like food and shelter. So, what’s the problem with attachment?

On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson discuss the problem with attachment, what differentiates healthy and unhealthy forms of attachment, and what we can do to relax attachment over time.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

2:10: Learning from Buddhism without trying to be a Buddhist

8:45: Two kinds of suffering

12:00: Distinguishing healthy desire and unhealthy desire

19:40: Markers of problematic attachments

24:10: Self-concept, and an example from Forrest of relaxing attachment

30:25: Balancing "Right View" and nonattachment

42:25: Pain and release

50:55: What’s useful for you?

55:45: Recap

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