Why adjust goals when confidence is low

Most people think confidence is about believing in yourself. Gabrielle Bernstein knows better — it's about befriending the parts of yourself that hold you back. After two decades as a spiritual teacher and writing 11 bestselling books, the author of The Universe Has Your Back and Self-Help has cracked the code on why we sabotage our success, stay stuck in negative loops, and block the very abundance we're trying to attract.

In this raw, deeply personal conversation, Gabrielle breaks down the exact Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework that changed her life, why pushing harder actually blocks manifestation, how suppressed trauma creates parts that sabotage you decades later, and why the 3 AM spiral can be stopped by visualizing your thoughts in a bubble and sending them away.

And it’s not just vibes — it's applied psychology. If you've ever felt like you're blocking your own success, spiraling in negative self-talk, or pushing so hard you can't receive what's trying to come to you, this episode will rewire how you think about confidence, manifestation, and what it actually takes to attract abundance.

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Keep up with Gabrielle Bernstein:

Website: https://gabbybernstein.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyb

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabrielleBernstein

Podcast: https://gabbybernstein.com/podcast/

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00:00:00 Introduction 00:01:25 The Confidence Problem: Why We Don't Set Big Goals 00:04:03 Breaking the Spiral: The Loop-Breaking Method 00:09:02 When You Change How You Look at Things, Everything Changes 00:09:46 Doing vs. Allowing: Drop the Tupperware, Keep the China 00:11:30 Manifesting Done Right: You're Always Manifesting Something 00:16:16 Energy Is Contagious: The Science Behind Your Imprint 00:18:04 Main Street Millionaire Live: Your Path to Business Ownership 00:18:40 The Choose Again Method: Name It, Forgive It, Redirect It 00:21:16 Why We Lose Our Joy: Core Beliefs and Protection Mechanisms 00:22:18 Internal Family Systems: Befriending the Parts That Hold You Back 00:31:03 The Four-Step Check-In: How to Heal Your Parts 00:39:20 Real Boundaries Come From Self-Compassion, Not Rage 00:28:13 The Hormone Monster: Perimenopause, Parts, and Partnership 00:45:42 How to Find a Good Therapist: The Safety Test 00:50:04 AI, Mediumship, and the Future of Spiritual Guidance 00:56:38 Abundance, Receptivity, and the Maternal Energy Shift 01:03:57 Do Less, Attract More: The Promise That Changes Everything 01:04:52 Main Street Millionaire Live: Join the Revolution

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