When You Beat Yourself Up, When You Judge Yourself

How do we know if something is useful? We look at the result. Does it give you a result that you like? For example, i got married when i was a wee, tiny little foetus of 23 years old. I would lay in bed every night and beat myself up for the way the wedding went. It did not give me any net positive results. Sometimes, like last week on wednesday, i hosted a webenarm for non focus members. And i i don't think i like, performed amazingly on the webenar because iwas so in my head about it. Because i was feeling like, oh, gush, like i was judging my past self and