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Supporting Stella in High Conflict
The hosts explore strategies for grandparents to support Stella, a grandchild caught in a high conflict between her parents, emphasizing the importance of maintaining positive relationships, teaching life skills, and providing unconditional love.
In this episode of It's All Your Fault, Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter tackle questions from grandparents struggling to support grandchildren amidst high conflict co-parents.
Protecting Kids from Raging Co-Parents
First, they advise how grandparents can help shield kids from a raging, unstable parent. Recommendations include teaching emotional regulation, self-checking, and conflict management skills. Stay positive about the high conflict parent.
Co-Parenting with a Difficult Ex Long-Term
Next is guidance for co-parenting long-term with a high conflict, accusatory ex. Bill emphasizes staying calm, balanced, and solution-focused. Praise successes. Accept the limitations on your role as a grandparent.
Getting an Expert Evaluation for Court
Then Bill explains why expert testimony is critical for custody cases with a parent with tendencies like factitious disorder or personality disorders. Experts can explain the need for detailed custody orders.
Minimizing Damage as Kids Grow Up
Finally, they discuss how to minimize damage as kids mature and become more aware of a high conflict parent’s extreme behaviors. Expose kids to reasonable role models and encourage their insights.
Key Takeaways:
The key is accepting your limited role as a grandparent, focusing on your own behavior, and providing a stabilizing presence for grandchildren. Get support from other grandparents going through similar challenges.
Links & Other Notes:
Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.
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