The Ocean, the Shift in Identity

Underneath the anger, there was some hurt, felt thak, in some way his attitude was pushing me away. As soon as i could sense hurt, am i was able to nurture with self kindness. And t allowed me to view him more clearly and realize that this really was not about me. It was just this unfortunate timing in him having to give up something that mattered to him which, of course, made me feel even kinder. There was a shift in identity. I was no longer inside this angry defend itself, that exclusive identity. But people often ask me, ye, but when i get stuck in that small self, i can't hold myself with mindfulness and compassion.