The Inability to Adult

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Julian Zelizer: It's fascinating to me how those pressures, which sometimes feel like they're just about the personal, can translate into some of the biggest issues that are facing this country. He says when a person has been so attended to in childhood, your parents brought you anything you forgot,. They just served, served,served, rescued, you know, we're just always there. And yet it sets up a pattern where this young person comes to believe that love looks like the other person drops everything to show up for you. Zuckerman: If they've been taught that the person who loves you drops everything to serve you, they will not be able to succeed in relationship with

Whether it’s grades and test scores, cushy jobs or big salaries, our ideas of “success” tend to be incredibly narrow and often start incredibly early. Julie Lythcott-Haims is a New York Times bestselling author and former Dean of Freshmen at Stanford, and she is dedicated to helping people reconsider what really makes a happy, “successful” adult. Julie shares wisdom for parents and anyone who has been parented on why it’s crucial to question societal expectations, how to find your own path and why empathy towards yourself and others are the true key to loving who you’ll grow up to be. For the full text transcript, visit go.ted.com/BHTranscripts