Relationship Defensiveness

If you blame yourself and say something like, I'm a terrible person, I never do anything right, it actually prevents the other person from being able to give you proper feedback. Denial, so you just deny any role in the issues. Labeling, this is when you simplify another person down to a single label like Jerk Loozer. Demandingness, complain about the other person should be a certain way or isn't the way that you'd like them to be. Hopelessness, so you act as if you've tried everything and you can't fix it, and you can’t do it.