The spark has become my nemesis because it's this all encompassing word that means instant fireworks, instant chemistry, love at first sight. And people are so focused on having this sparky moment that they actually miss a lot about what long term real messy love is all about. So I have these three myths of the spark that I like to bust for people. The first myth of the spark is that if you don't have it, it can never grow. That's absolutely not true. A lot of unhappily married couples, divorce couples, et cetera, once had the spark. It's enough to get you into the relationship, but not enough to have you keep it
How the hell do grown ups date and make friends? Behavioral scientist turned dating coach, Logan Ury is here to help us make dating and meeting new friends easier: how to identify what you really want; why we should stop searching for “the spark”; why we keep going after the same people that are wrong for us; how to talk to our kids about their first love experiences; why we need to have “other significant others”; and the eight questions you should ask yourself after meeting anyone new.
About Logan:
Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She runs an online community through her weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google’s behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott.
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