How can we navigate people whose moods and goals for happiness might not be as consistent with ours? This question comes from mass com 84 on twitter. Larry: I think equanimity allows us to realize that, ok, i can bring the best version of myself to this situation, to this other person, that i can, but it's not my responsibility to fix them. Jimi: One thing to remember is that oftentimes just because some one comes off as unhappy doesn't mean that they don't want to be happy.