Angela Drexler: How do we deal with this social comparison reflex? She says it's foundational to a lot of old research, but there's really new research on modeling. "It takes minutes, if not seconds, for a young girl or boy to watch a grownup do something and then mimic them almost to a tee," she says. 'I think apart from Albandera's intuition, and I'm not completely speculating because towards the end of his life, I used to call him a lot on weekends and listen to him tell stories about these things'