How to Help a Hurler?

How do you initiate helping some one who doesn't necessarily recognize that they need that help? Ah, yes. We have a tough one here. There are a lot of parents and spouses who are listening in order to help their loved ones. And the pattern that i'm seeing is that their loved ones are curlers who tend to blame others. So first, when someone's in the hurling mentality, i really suggest you treat them like they're drunk. In other words, you don't try to have conversations with a drunk person. They aren't capable of rational thinking so wait till the hurling's done.