How to Deal With Anger and Resentment in Relationships

"This isn't about ignoring the actual emotional fallout or the consequence that we are experiencing," she says. "It's holding space for both, allowing ourselves to be hurt and experience anger" Anger arises when we're one of two things that have happened; it can also come from a sense of not being felt well by someone in our lives. When you're dysregulated, there's much less of an opportunity for you to access those moments of presence where you can consciously pause before you react.