Embracing Discomfort: Growth, Learning, and Effective Communication with Teens

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Wouldn't it be great if we knew when and how we parents and teachers can make a massive long-term difference by doing something relatively small? What if we could catch those moments that might set off either an upward or downward spiral, and help our kids find the best path?

Well, that's what this episode is all about. Dr Gregory Walton has been described as 'one of psychology's greatest architects of how to change behaviour for good', and 'one of the most important psychologists in a generation'. 

He is co-director of Harvard's Dweck-Walton lab and coined the term 'Wise interventions'; things we can do or say that hit the spot just at the point when another person is asking one of life's fundamental questions. 

His new book is called, Ordinary Magic. It's all about the science of how we can achieve big change with small acts. These are things that go much further than the small nudges that help people to make better choices. This is the sort of deep magic that can last a lifetime. 

Contact Dr Greg Walton: 

https://www.gregorywalton.com/

CORE QUESTIONS:

• Can I do it?
• Do I belong?
• Am I enough?
• Who am I?
• Do you love me?
• Can I trust you?

KEY POINTS AT WHICH CORE QUESTIONS TEND TO CROP UP: TIF's

• Transitions
• Identity 
• Challenges

THE PRINCIPLES FOR THINKING THROUGH 'BAD' EVENTS:

1. Avoid negative labels (I'm not bad)
2. You're not the only one; you're never the only one. (It's normal)
3. Recognise causes that don't malign you or others (I/you face real obstacles)
4. Forecast improvement (It can get better)
5. Recognise opportunities (Silver lining)

OtoZen — a new driving safety app
Are you worried about your teenager getting distracted behind the wheel? 

The OtoZen app helps in real time — not just after something’s gone wrong. It has voice alerts, drive scores, and even safe driving challenges you can set together, it’s the kind of tech that actually helps your teen build better habits. 

1. OtoZen Helps Teens Build Safer Driving Habits

2. Empowers Parents Without Hovering

3. Motivates Teens with Streaks and Rewards

4. Privacy-Focused Alternative to Life360

5. Proven Logic, Easy to Use

OtoZen — a new driving safety app
OtoZen helps build better habits in real time with voice alerts, drive scores, and safey challenges.

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This episode is sponsored by OtoZen: The brilliant new driving safety app

https://www.otozen.com

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