I think the way that you think to day is a survival adaptation from how you grew up. So, like, your anxiety isn't an enemy. It's just like, when i'm you know. So this is how our mind works. It's kind of like cement. The early changes in our mind solidify later in time. And it sounds like your dad has gotten better over timeh hes al right, noug right. I don't even know what he did when you, you know, pooped your pants when you were one.