Relationship Psychology

How can you have a clear and authentic relationsip with your wife if you've not correctly understood what you feel about your own mother? If we are unwilling to undertake this kind of excavation, then we are doomed to continually have relationships that are cutaneous. The superficial coordinates will govern our experience of relation. Yes, that's the repetition compulsion. From a freudian perspective, is that that isn't how freud explained it. That's how a union would explain it.