You're always reacting, responding, reacting, responding. How do you fix this? You take the yogic approach of preventing infection by filtering your perceptions. The second thing you need to do is control what colonizes your mind and restrict as much as you can the sensory inputs. And the third and hardest thing to deal with is the ahamgara or the ego because as a result of number one and number two, we form identities. They start controlling and shaping our actions.