Ovlova: We are conditioned in our world to be over indulgent. When we feel that discomfort of saying no to ourselves, we're told that's a bad thing and that something's gone wrong when it comes to sex or sexual stimuli. Women get the message that he men have very sexual bodies, and it's your job to fulfil them. And if you don't, he's going to need to go look for that somewhere else. It's really important to be ware of this messaging. You can allow something to happen very quickly, without needing it to happen so that you feel better about yourself. This is just like conditioning and things that the world teaches us. I love ove