The Importance of Coherence in Child Abuse

We all go into disorganized states in a moment so we're making a distinction again there's the category of disorganization. If you can't develop those skills through infancy and as you grow your body literally doesn't have the capacity. A lot of these parents if you were to ask them on a quiz how to parent they will get all the answers correct they know but then they get triggered or they fall. But you're not a bad person it's just that you lose capacity for a moment.