How to Train Habit for Thinking When, When

The idea of two sides and you have to choose one or the other is a common mistake. Most people think that if they don't have an opinion about things, then they are evil for not having them. The only way to do that is to communicate well with your partner. Seek first to understand and then to be understood. Don't compromise on anything because it doesn't matter how much Jiu Jitsu you're doing at the time. Think when, when rather than what's going through your head right now. And most importantly: Ask yourself why something needs to be done in the first place.