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But you know, it's interesting. I don't, first of all, I don't rank or judge or necessarily count. My friends, but I don't have, I mean, I don't, I, you know, I'm not one of those people who only has gay friends or only has straight friends. I mean, if I meet you and we cool and we click, then I'm like, we're like, we can do it. You know, I'm not. So I think that was the other thing. My, my best friends in high school, I mean, maybe I don't know, maybe because we weren't allowed to be out, but my friends who were in high school, even now, they were straight. And I'm not saying that, you know, being an athlete, Constitution is not being gay, but I was, I played sports. Like, I did the whole thing, you know what I'm saying? Like, I did the whole quote, quote, jock thing. So it didn't necessarily line up with what I think my, my family, I'm sure other people out there was like, you're a Sean C. Yay. I'm like, I wish you would have told me earlier, because I would have been

like, yes. You know what I

mean? I would have been so free, but, you know, it is what it is. You

held it back. And you say in the book, if you're holding something back, it's holding you back. And tell us what you mean by that. Because it seems like you held something back for a really long time. And in turn, I'm assuming that it held you back. Like you said, you would have felt so free if you'd known you could have just come out

earlier. Yeah, I think, you know, if you're holding something back, it's holding you back. So have you ever been, have you ever been sleeping and you've been in a dream and you want to wake up or you want to yell in your dream and you can't say anything? Like that's the feeling when I say, if you're holding something back, it's holding you back, you feel so stifled. And if like some people don't understand that if you don't free yourself from the thing that you're trying to hide, you literally feel imprisoned. And if you wake up and you just accept who you are, and you say, this is me, or this is my struggle, and this is what I'm going through. And you work toward making that better. As tough as it is to get over that first hurdle of self acceptance. When you get to the other side, it is literally the most freeing moment. But if you don't accept your past, you're going to be stuck in your past. And the reason why things are holding people back is because they literally let it hold them back because of fear, which is obviously false evidence appearing real because we can't predict the future. And so, you know, a lot of times when something's holding you back, you literally are keeping yourself stuck in a past situation. You know, I'm actually speaking at an event on Saturday about victims of rape. And they told me, you know, they were like, we really want you to speak to the audience because you, you know, in past years, it was, everyone was like, like really sad. And every, you know, we cried the whole time that, you know, a keynote speaker spoke. And so, because for me, I say the uncomfortable part already happened. I'm like, listen, for me, my sexual abuse happened. I had to come out. That already happened. I'm not going to continue to live in a space that's been holding me down, you know, consistency over time equals result. If you consistently say in the same spot, the result is going to be the exact same. But if you try to move forward and you accept what it is and you can then you can start to break down the barriers that like break down the pieces of whatever it is that's been holding you back and understand it a little better. But you got to shatter that, you got to shatter that piece of glass that's like holding you down so you can start break it into pieces and separate it and deal with it one by one and you will move forward and you will feel free.