Guilt is a debt hat can try to make up for the fact that things aren't perfect, so i'm gong to overdo it. False guilt can cause us to make decisions that are counter productive. Guilt trippers in our lives will use guilt to manipulate you into doing something against your own values of what really matters. Even if it's just that feeling i'm not doing enough, i'm not working hard enough, oftentimes that's a sense of guilt.
If you've done something wrong, feelings of guilt can prompt us to apologise, make amends and change our ways. But many of us also feel guilty with little cause. We may think we're bad parents, lazy or incompetent workers, or unreliable partners - all without much evidence that we've done anything wrong.
Life coach Valorie Burton (author of Let Go Of The Guilt: Stop Beating Yourself Up And Take Back Your Joy) felt guilty for combining her career with raising a family - until she started examining the values and assumptions that underpinned these draining feelings. She shares the strategies she developed to separate 'true' guilt from 'false' guilt with Dr Laurie Santos.
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