Are You Going to Call a Spade a Spade?

Aristotle asks you to think about the ways in which you're picturing a situation. Do you see the person then and there as their former selves, with all the attractive parts that you had thought about? Or can you keep up front what is so abusive about this relationship or what is so hurtful? He actually says, you have two perceptions at that moment, and they compete with each other. We are bad at keeping complex pictures in our head. And i don't think media these days helps us either.