i feel like these days we look at each other as though we we're reading statistics off of a baseball card. Sometimes those statistics can be super misleading, especially when they makes someone seem different from ourselves. People will open up very quickly if you show any genuine curiosity in them. It turns out that when people can access each other's biographies, when they can understand and also feel heard, telling their own stories. I'm not saying that we should be blind to those differences or act like we're all the same. In fact, i think we should understand that we're all different, not just from people on the other side of a divide or difference, but from people on our own