A silent agreement is an expectation that the other person will read your mind. It sets us up for disappointment, but it also sets our partner up to feel bad about not doing a thing they didn't read our mind to do. So these unexpressed expectations set everyone up to fail. They set you up to be frustrated, but they also set the other person up to feel like a jerk even though they haven't really done anything wrong.
Were you raised in a family with silent agreements?
Were there topics you knew you could not discuss with your parental impactors?
Did big fights or upsetting events happen only for everyone to wake up the following day and pretend they didn’t?
Or do you have unexpressed expectations for your partner, family, or friends and feel disappointed when they fail to meet them?
Silent agreements or expectations are often dysfunctional, which is why, in this episode, I am breaking down the dangers of this behavior and where it comes from. I am also giving you questions to understand where you have silent agreements in your life so you can move to expressed or clean agreements.
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