Long-term partners often find themselves having the same fight over and over again. This repetitive, unproductive conflict is known as a negative cycle–and it can ultimately be very damaging to the relationship. So in today’s show, we’re going to discuss how to identify negative cycles in your own relationship, and how to break the pattern.
My guest is Julie Menanno, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. Julie’s latest book is titled Secure Love: Create a Relationship that Lasts a Lifetime.
Some of the specific topics we explore include:
- How do you know when an argument you’re having with a partner is reflective of a larger negative cycle?
- What are some ways to use vulnerability to break out of a negative cycle?
- What does co-regulation look like for couples trying to resolve an argument?
- What are the most common traps that lead to negative cycles in the first place?
- How can couples repair their relationship if a negative cycle sneaks in?
You can visit Julie’s website to learn more about her work.
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