The key to achieving self-control is not in eliminating the feeling of stress, but in understanding the neuroscientific mechanisms behind it. By cultivating awareness of internal conflicts without the need for any further action, one can effectively exert self-control. This awareness is equivalent to self-control, as demonstrated in meditation practices where attention to the breath leads to improved self-control. Contrary to popular belief, awareness and control are not sequential; they are essentially the same function in the brain.