Dealing with judgment is an inevitable part of life, and instead of trying to avoid it, one should learn to channel it productively. Maturity comes from recognizing the dynamics of judgment and using that awareness as motivation rather than allowing it to lead to obsessive thoughts. Success and experience do not eliminate the desire for validation, as the instinct to seek approval remains strong. Whether one takes action or remains inactive, judgment will occur regardless, highlighting the futility of fearing it. Ultimately, the key is to focus on pursuing one's goals and passions without being hindered by the opinions of others.
We all wish we gave fewer f*cks in our lives, but wanting to and doing it are two different things. If you've read my book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, then you know that not giving a f*ck doesn't mean you don't care about anything—it means deliberately choosing what you give a f*ck about and ignore the rest.
In this episode, we dive into the realities of not giving f*ck, the good and the bad. We talk about why there will never be a time when you're completely free from judgement by others. Why being "normal"—whatever that means—is not something to aspire to, nor is wanting to be liked by everyone. How criticism is a part of life you can't escape—but not all criticism is created equal. And a whole lot more.
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