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5. Shame Spiral

Overcome Pornography for Good

Overcoming Shame in the Process of Overcoming Pornography

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Overcoming shame is crucial in the process of overcoming pornography. Shame causes us to hide and avoid, as per Bernay Brown. We avoid help, talking about it, and being around others. We even hide from ourselves by buffering from it and from God. Shame is destructive because it comes from a thought that there is something wrong with us. It doesn't come from looking at pornography, but from our thoughts.

In today's episode we talk about shame spirals.

It's important to stay connected to your emotions because your emotions cause your actions. Shame is not a useful emotion when it comes to quitting pornography or other habits. Shame always causes you to hide and avoid. Many people believe that shame is a motivator, when in fact it is the opposite. It is a de-motivater. You can not hate yourself into change.

Shame comes from thoughts, not from looking at pornography. Shame comes from thoughts that have the underlying message of, "there is something wrong with me".

We find ourselves in shame spirals when we 1. thing something is wrong with me 2. feel shame 3. hide and avoid. 4. view pornography to escape the shame --> and then starting the cycle all over.

Join me in todays episode to learn how to combat this shame cycle!

Ready to commit to quitting pornography? I would love to be your coach. Visit this link to work with me: https://www.sarabrewer.com/workwithme

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