Unhealthy Relationships and Rediscovering Self

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Individuals who emerge from unhealthy marriages often experience a parallel process where they revert back to their pre-marriage selves, as they had hidden their true selves and performed to maintain the relationship. Many people who were in bad marriages for a long time express feeling as if they are their younger selves again, having sidelined their true identity and pretended to be someone else during the marriage.

In 2021, Matt from Yes Theory, one of YouTube's biggest channels, revealed he was quitting the platform. Despite being an internet celebrity, Matt's story is a common one—about someone who gave away too much of themselves to be liked by others, and now desperately trying to get themselves back. In this episode, Matt and I unpack this familiar dilemma, as well as covering topics like codependence, managing success, dealing with parasocial relationships, determining when vulnerability goes too far, and much more.