The Fundamental Theme of Disconnection and Developmental Trauma

The core insight revolves around the fundamental theme of disconnection in response to overwhelming emotions and unmet needs. Different strategies and defense mechanisms are employed to disconnect when life becomes too painful. When addressing trauma, the focus should be on exploring the reasons for disconnection rather than encouraging the expression of negative emotions like anger. The fear of connection stems from the belief that letting go of defense mechanisms may lead to something worse. Developmental trauma involves foreclosing authentic aspects of oneself to protect the attachment relationship with parents, even if the parents are no longer present.