When conversing with a bully, it's crucial to avoid getting pulled into a debate frame, establish rapport, seek consent to explore their reasoning, ask for claims or feelings based on the issue, confirm understanding by repeating and clarifying their points, ask for the numerical measure of confidence in their position, inquire about the methods used to judge the quality of their reasons, and finally, listen, summarize, reflect, and hold space for them to form a fully developed opinion. This approach often leads to a high success rate in changing the other person's opinion over time and creates a routine dynamic for future conversations, making it difficult for them to bully you.